This morning my eldest left for Florida with his teachers and friends from school. It’s an educational trip filled with lots of fun activities. He was very excited about this trip. Naturally, I was nervous. But his excitement helped me relax.
I have given him instructions on what to do, what not to do, etc. Normally I would stress myself out thinking about how he is going to remember any of it or about the million different ways he could mess up in my absence. But this time I have decided to trust that he will figure it out.
He might not get to point B from point A the way I might, but he will get there. We need to trust our children. They will make mistakes. They must make mistakes. That’s their learning process. If we step in and do everything for them, then they won’t learn at all. And one day when they are forced to do it all by themselves the learning curve becomes so steep that it will terrify them.
So, as parents, it would be a wise decision to let our children make their mistakes, learn from those mistakes, correct it, and enable them to ask for help when they need it. Asking for help is an essential tool to survive life. But we fail in asking for help many times. Recognizing the need to ask for help is a vital quality in a human being.
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. We encourage others to ask for help. But often we fail in seeking help. I had seen this happening many times over.
My younger one is missing his big brother so much. Next five days are going to be difficult for him. This definitely is a different kind of Spring break for us. But he is not crying about it, which is a big relief for me.
He is following me around like he used to when he was a toddler which is driving me crazy, because I am not able to focus on the things I need to do. At the same time I am happy that he still needs me. Motherhood is a mixture of emotions I realize again.
Here are a few things that I feel grateful for at this moment:
- Kanna and his friends landed safely in Florida. Successful first day.
- Akku managed day one without his brother.
- I am able to trust my kids, though I am always worried.
- Despite constant migraine attacks, I am able to survive. I couldn’t read or write the past week as I couldn’t find a respite from the nagging ache, but when I get a few moments of clarity it feels so peaceful and refreshing.
- Starting a new book—Kaikeyi: A Novel by Vaishnavi Patel is my current read. It’s Ramayana from Kaikeyi’s perspective. I am also listening to Home by Toni Morrison.
That’s all for now.
Let me know in the comments, what are you grateful for today.