Wednesday, June 12, 2024
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#MakeItHappen

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When I heard about the interview of the rapist, I, just like anyone else was furious. Why does anyone interview a rapist? What can he possibly say about the heinous crime he committed? And why on earth should we hear him out?

Then I read the original article published in BBC. The interviewer Leslee Udwin is in no way supporting the rapist’s views. She gave a medium through which we, the public, could hear what the rapist 2 years later, after committing such a horrendous crime, is thinking. Of course, his remorseless words pointing at the girl who is no more, is only making our blood boil.

But did he say anything which wasn’t said already? No, he was only repeating the same lines told by many political leaders, many old and wise men and some women. Around the time this brutal crime happened, so many public figures chipped in with their version of how this could have been avoided stories, and none of them were remotely worth listening to. It was demeaning to hear such comments on how and why a rape happens and how we can avoid being raped. It is demeaning.

Now, in my opinion, it is humiliating to those people who already made these sorts of comments when today the rapist himself repeated after them, citing that same comment as the reason for the rape.

There is no doubt that he is a faulty minded person. Otherwise, who in the world would commit such an atrocious crime? But then what about the others who parade themselves as the good ones carrying such hideous views about women and crime? What is the difference between a rapist who is waiting in the prison for his death sentence to be carried out and these well educated and well accepted people roaming in our country boasting about the welfare of the country and claiming to do wonderments for the welfare of the people which includes women and kids?

We were outraged to read the defense lawyers views. It is pathetic even to listen to them, at least the rapist has  a reason to say all these because his life is going to get hanged, that’s what the judiciary says. What about the defense lawyers? Do you think the female figures in their life is safe? I don’t think so. Either they live a hideously double standardized life or their wives and kids are dangerously in trouble living with such low-minded men.

Most of the media published the Leslee Udwin’s article as the interview with the rapist, giving the public the illusion that the rapist’s words carry more weight than committing a brutal rape. Our media did the Ctrl-C Ctrl-V method, cutting out other parts from the original article without which it looked like giving credit to the rapist’s words. Where in fact, the documentary was essentially about the brutality of the crime and how the mentality hasn’t changed even after 2 years.

This interview and documentary were essential because it reignited those sparks in our mind. Reading those terrible things said by the rapist made us all furious just like we were on the morning of 17th December 2012. We were agonized 2 years ago because we felt the pain Nirbhaya endured. We were enraged, because we couldn’t stop what had happened. We were suffocated with ‘What ifs’ and ‘What could have been’s. We threw our angry emotions at the system which is still carrying out the ancient patriarchal methods. We declared vehemently that it is not acceptable.

And we waited patiently to see and live the change. But today, 2 years since the crime nothing has changed. That was made clear when we read the disgusting words of the criminal. And the poisonous words of the ‘educated’ defense lawyers underlined that nothing has changed. And this is unacceptable.

We, women, don’t want to be worshiped. We want to be heard and treated as humans. We don’t want to be locked inside the four walls catering to every need of the man and the family. We are just like anyone else who has dreams and desires and we are most certainly not asking for permission to live the way we like. Because, there is no need for that. We are as much humans as you are. We are Making It Happen.

Note: My views here are not on whether this documentary was a bad idea or not, rather it is about what followed after the contents of the documentary were spilled out.

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Linking this with Blog-A-Rhythm’s IWD link up.

Vinitha

An IT Professional, an author, an accidental blogger, a lover of words and a recent self-care addict. I love stringing words together, which I lovingly call a poem. You can read my affair with words at Void Thoughts(http://thevoidthoughts.com) and Reflections..(https://www.vinithadileep.com)

25 thoughts on “#MakeItHappen

  1. Very well put Vinitha… My humble view is that why should we give a mouth piece to a filth like the rapist..But yes I also hope there will be something positive out of this…Then again I’m scared that it might give courage to more like him….I don’t care whether the world thinks good or bad of India. because there’s no denying that we have problems…But I don’t understand if this is a documentary on Nirbhaya or that rapist? And inspite of that no the govt shouldn’t ban it, I don’t think so

    #MakeItHappen for India’s Daughters…

    1. My point is the interview happened even though we never wanted such an interview. Now let’s use it to make the situation a little better. By turning against each other, blaming about these matters isn’t going to benefit anyone. So let’s put it to a better use. And yeah, India is only bad as the rest of the world is. We all are a mix of good and bad. If we all stop controlling our emotions and cheer on mob violence even it is to kill a rapist, then it is not good.
      The focus should be on creating more humane people not on dragging us to their level.

    1. These crimes are happening every day, even now. My view is to raise good kids and bring up a whole new generation of good people rather than trying to pinpoint who is the worst one, who said what and all. We can ignore these comments, we probably can’t change their mentality unless they want to.

  2. Really, what has the derivation of our culture come to? After all the pointers you have stated here, it makes me think, that we could actually surpass traditions like Purdah system and yet we are living with men who have such filthy and narrow minded mindsets. Speaks a lot of how much more we need to evolve as a nation.

  3. It is indeed really tragic that our criminal justice system moves so slow, especially when the crime is so horrendous. But I still maintain that as a society we don’t need to be reminded again and again of the horror of what a death-row convict and a couple of notoreity-hungry vicious, loathsome lawyers think or believe they think. They are not a reflection of Indian society or Indian men. Such evil-minded persons are to be found everywhere on this planet.

    1. I agree Beloo, these backward minded people are not a reflection of India. India has changed a lot but they are still here trying to drag us down to their level at every opportunity they get. But we know that we are better than this.

  4. We, women, don’t want to be worshiped. We want to be heard and treated as humans. This, this point needs to take root in everyone’s head, then only the mentality can change, and the society next! Which is the urgent need of the hour!

    1. Absolutely agree with you, Nibha. You know what I think, we should live just the way we want wearing what we like, going out when we want to. We should live our life as freely as we like, which will be a reflection of how much we don’t give a damn about the degraded views. We should stop giving answers to them and just live our life ignoring their comments. And one day they will realize how wrong they were, hopefully!

  5. I concur with your viewpoints Vinitha, some expressed on my International Women’s Day blog post (http://xpressyouressence.blogspot.ca/2015/03/international-womens-day-make-it-happen.html) though it IS easy to get angry, blame others, blame men, blame the system – a way to vent anger though as I did (initally swear in disguise via http://xpressyouressence.blogspot.ca/2015/03/reactions-to-delhi-bus-rapist-interview.html) – but then in the end what good does it get us? Women wish to be treated respectfully as humans, not locked inside like an animal in a cage to fearful to leave her home. <3

  6. I enjoyed reading your views just after I read Nabanita’s. It is atrocious what people get away with. Exposure is one thing. But blasphemy is quite another because surely that’s what this situation reeks of.

    Happy Women’s Day, Vinitha!

  7. I’m in agreement with you. For change to occur we need to understand the mind set of people and I believe that that’s what the documentary was trying to portray. It has certainly ignited a fire in people again and if we can take that forward and begin that change then it will have achieved at least one of its purposes. And pray that it brings justice and closure for Nirbhaya and her parents.

  8. I quite agree with what you say. Now that the documentary is out there, let us use this opportunity to face the situation, spread awareness and see how change can be brought about.

    1. How did you arrive at the conclusion that I demeaned my country in any way? Even if the documentary is fake, the rape, rapes I mean, happened and still happening. Those disgusting comments were already made by lots of people way before this documentary. How in the world are you thinking that I am demeaning here?

  9. I have mixed feelings about this documentary. I do not condone paying the rapist or giving him an international forum to air his views. This documentary can do as much harm as it can help. It can go either way. It will certainly reignite the fire in people and spread awareness. However, it could also encourage more people like the rapist. Not every one is going to get a death sentence (coz that is not a law in India-yet). But a lot of people can look at this like- you rape and kill a girl, human rights activists will champion your cause, educated lawyers will defend your case and BBC will pay you 40k and give you an international forum to air your views on the subject. However, now that this documentary is out, lets hope that it has a greater positive impact than the damage it can do.

  10. It is very difficult to bring about a change in India, since the entire system itself is corrupt. We need very tough laws and Judiciary has to be held accountable first for not doling out severe punishments.
    Else, we will just keep moving along like the last 2 yrs have passed.

  11. This particular topic has been a dangerous one, in my view and like Shantala says can swing either way. The point , as you put it, is that women need to be treated better. When that happens, then a documentary with its 15 minutes of air time fame will not really matter. Well said, Vinitha.

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