When I had my baby 5 years back, me and my husband were alone in another part of the world away from the rest of our family. I had my husband as a support system, but I was the only one with the baby 24/7.
I stole power naps whenever my new baby took nap.
I squeezed in cooking when my little one tried to jingle the mobile toys hung upon the play gym with his tiny leg.
I watched TV shows during dinner or lunch whichever I could savor first.
It wasn’t easy. I loved my baby, but I missed spending more than 1 minute in the shower. I missed my precious ME-TIME with the baby’s arrival.
At four months of my mommyhood, I joined a yoga class right next to my home. Oh, what a bliss that was! I enjoyed the practice with all my heart. Moreover, I enjoyed the me-time, 2 hours a week. That was a healthy dose of me time for the exhausted me.
But I still craved for more me-time. More relaxation. And when my baby was 2 years old we put him in a daycare, 2 hours a day, 3 days a week. And boy, I was elated and depressed at the same time. I heard my baby’s cries when he was not around and rushed to the bedroom to find an empty crib only to realize that he was at the day care.
Yeah, it took some time to get adjusted to enjoy the much-awaited me-time. But mind you, I wasn’t bored. I wasn’t without work to do when my son was away for 2 hours. It was a change of phase for both me and him. One month later we were the happiest mommy and baby in the block.
Through my experience, I learned that me-time for the mother is much important for the mommy and the baby. Letting someone else take care of the baby for an hour a day isn’t abandoning our baby. That one hour would help in rejuvenating ourselves and giving the baby a happier mommy. I was questioned on why was I sending a two-year-old kid to the daycare while I stay at home. Anyone who understands how tiring parenting can be would not pose such questions. Anyone who realizes how important me time for keeping sanity is would not even think of asking such questions.
It is natural to feel guilty when we are away from our precious little bundle of joy. But should we? If taking some time just for ourselves could give our baby and our family a better us, shouldn’t that be done without fail? What do you think?
Originally published in World Of Moms.