Tuesday, April 16, 2024
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What’s Your Worth? #SoulfulSunday

I am a person with a variety of interests. Academically, I was not bad. I loved math. Still do.

I love words. Playing with words is one of my favorite activities.

I like drawing.

I like reading.

I like blogging.

I enjoyed working as a software developer. I never whined when I stayed back to finish the work. I loved the challenges in my work and faced them as I would a puzzle.

Oh, I love puzzles.

I love writing. I am not a trained writer. I don’t have the academic qualifications of a writer, just a passion and love of words. I absolutely love to write.

I don’t limit myself to what I know. I learn things every day. Every. Day. 

I am always looking for a job to restart my career. But there is a problem. When I talk to people, I get the impression that they connect my worth to my job or the lack of it. The circumstances that led to the change in my working status are not a matter of anyone’s interest. Rather the fact that I am not working though I have these qualifications is everyone’s concern. 

The general outlook is since I don’t have a job now, I am sitting idle, wasting my days and talent. “A person like you who has such a great educational background should work.” A statement I am subjected to all the time. 

Everything I do in my home, for my family, for myself adds up to zero value because I have no job; because I am not earning. 

Life is that easy, isn’t it? In order to categorize one’s worth all we need to know is only a few factors, and that’s it. I don’t think so.

I used to feel tortured and abused when such talks had happened in the past. But now I am wiser. I have the sense to understand the many things I do on a day along with the many things I get to do on a day. 

I still apply for jobs that attract my attention. But I stopped equating my worth to whether I’m salaried or not. There is no correlation between the two. Yes, financial independence is needed. Among other things. We all need to be self-sufficient. But we all depend on each other too. 

Dismissing people on account of their paycheck or lack of a paycheck isn’t something a person worthy of your presence in their life will do.

My question is how can the amount of money you earn increase or decrease your worth?  Our children aren’t earning anything but they are still valuable to us. Why isn’t the same logic applying to adults too? 

Let’s not define our worth based on how much we earn. There is a lot more value in the little joys of life. Let’s teach our kids to grow up into people who can understand the value of little joys.

There are many qualities in me that I value – my love for words is one such quality. What do you value in yourself the most whether you get paid for it or not? 

Written for #SoulfulSunday, an exercise to nourish our creative side, formulated by Esha and supported by ShilpaAnamika, and yours truly.

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An IT Professional, an author, an accidental blogger, a lover of words and a recent self-care addict. I love stringing words together, which I lovingly call a poem. You can read my affair with words at Void Thoughts(http://thevoidthoughts.com) and Reflections..(https://www.vinithadileep.com)

4 thoughts on “What’s Your Worth? #SoulfulSunday

  1. Oh, Vini, this post feels so close to my heart. It could have been my story!
    I am trying to come to terms with the fact that my self-worth doesn’t depend upon whether or not I earn, but thanks to the pandemic and the havoc it wreaked on us, I am not able to achieve those goals. My confidence rises only when I get work that pays. Sad, isn’t it? I do tell myself that i am worthy even if I don’t work, but then some things happen which pull me down and I am back to square one. So, there are days when I know my worth, as does my family, and then there are days when things aren’t as shiny. I have learned to live with it. 🙁

    1. It’s the sad reality of many women, right? For my generation, you had to be single and working or married. There’s so much more pressure out there today. Nothing and no one defines us, but the guilt and the burden continue. Takes so much inner work to come out of it.

  2. You have touched an important point in this post, Vinitha. I was working, but now I am a housewife. Personally, I made this choice since I didn’t want to feel like being everywhere, but not being anywhere. Now when I talk with people, their behaviour has become like since I am not salaried, either my opinion doesn’t count or I would have no opinion about something of importance. Physical labour is not valued today as much as money. People wanted to stay in touch to know my technical qualification, than my housekeeping knowledge! Honestly, I didn’t have any when I quit my job, but now I feel better. However, if I take up a job this time, I am only keeping people who considered me a human being rather than a professional.

  3. You are a multi-faceted person, Vinitha. Do not let the external voices, which make your valuation on the basis of whether you are using your engineering degree by working or not, affect you. I am sure those people who make their statements to you only have work and salaries in their life having no hobby or no other skill. They may be frustrated in their moolah paying jobs but they think themselves of authority in deciding what values a human neing.
    I was in the top 3 (topper among the girls) throughout my academic life and yet here I am as a homemaker now owing to the circumstances which prevailed 8 years ago. I have no intentions to return to my previous working life howsoever I dislike doing the housework day in and day out. What do I want to say with this? I am not sure. Let’s just let it be.

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