I am a person with a variety of interests. Academically, I was not bad. I loved math. Still do.
I love words. Playing with words is one of my favorite activities.
I like drawing.
I like reading.
I like blogging.
I enjoyed working as a software developer. I never whined when I stayed back to finish the work. I loved the challenges in my work and faced them as I would a puzzle.
Oh, I love puzzles.
I love writing. I am not a trained writer. I don’t have the academic qualifications of a writer, just a passion and love of words. I absolutely love to write.
I don’t limit myself to what I know. I learn things every day. Every. Day.
I am always looking for a job to restart my career. But there is a problem. When I talk to people, I get the impression that they connect my worth to my job or the lack of it. The circumstances that led to the change in my working status are not a matter of anyone’s interest. Rather the fact that I am not working though I have these qualifications is everyone’s concern.
The general outlook is since I don’t have a job now, I am sitting idle, wasting my days and talent. “A person like you who has such a great educational background should work.” A statement I am subjected to all the time.
Everything I do in my home, for my family, for myself adds up to zero value because I have no job; because I am not earning.
Life is that easy, isn’t it? In order to categorize one’s worth all we need to know is only a few factors, and that’s it. I don’t think so.
I used to feel tortured and abused when such talks had happened in the past. But now I am wiser. I have the sense to understand the many things I do on a day along with the many things I get to do on a day.
I still apply for jobs that attract my attention. But I stopped equating my worth to whether I’m salaried or not. There is no correlation between the two. Yes, financial independence is needed. Among other things. We all need to be self-sufficient. But we all depend on each other too.
Dismissing people on account of their paycheck or lack of a paycheck isn’t something a person worthy of your presence in their life will do.
My question is how can the amount of money you earn increase or decrease your worth? Our children aren’t earning anything but they are still valuable to us. Why isn’t the same logic applying to adults too?
Let’s not define our worth based on how much we earn. There is a lot more value in the little joys of life. Let’s teach our kids to grow up into people who can understand the value of little joys.
There are many qualities in me that I value – my love for words is one such quality. What do you value in yourself the most whether you get paid for it or not?